My Move and…………….Martha Stewart

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What, you might ask does Martha Stewart have to do with my move to the desert? It has nothing to do with her interior design empire. I am not planing  to decorate our new house in faux Connecticut style, if I can’t have a real house in Greenwich, I don’t want to pretend I am there. Oops, she lives in Katonah, NY, my apologies to Greenwich.

It has to do with serving your time with grace. I am not a big fan of Ms. Stewart, I think she is very talented and business savvy, but from all accounts a hard taskmaster to work for and who can possibly like anyone who is perfect at everything! Okay, so I am little jealous.

What I do admire about her is the way she handled her incarceration, no appeals. no delaying tactics. She just wanted to get through it and move on. She didn’t mope in her cell/room, she taught classes, worked in the library, probably baked cookies and crafted new seat covers for the dining hall. She pulled herself up by her boot straps and did her time.

So until I get over my homesickness and my lack of routine and my general lack of interest in my surroundings, I must press on. My sane, organized, ambitious self tells me this is the perfect chance to devote more time to this blog. Take a page from Martha’s book and turn lemons into lemonade. Actually observe a great many different stages of aging and what really separates the people who stay engaged in life, from the people who lose themselves as they age and accept that their world is going to shrink and make peace with that.

I should discipline myself to write every morning. Put together a motivational presentation on “remaining relevant in a youth obsessed culture”, using all my wonderful speaking training from Weight Watchers. Work on a website for related products and do everything that I was so enthusiastic about in Los Angeles, I am only a scant 120 miles from LA, not on the other side of the world. It just doesn’t feel the same here, I see why the average New Yorker, who moves to LA complains about the pace of life in California.

However, my other side just wants to go home or at least just get into my bed and pull the covers over my head and wait for our years lease to be up. My husband chose this place in the desert, thinking I could make new friends here and develop new interests, but what do you do if you liked your old place and your old interests. I hate change and I am not sure that I want to start all over again.

I hope I can find a way to adjust to a new lifestyle or turn all these new experiences into gist for my blogging mill.

Charlie Is Two…..The Joys of Grandmothering

 

Can not believe my grand-daughter turns two tomorrow! She is such a delight, although she seems to have magically discovered the word, NO, right on schedule. But even her no’s are music to my ears.

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I had decided simply to reprint my blog from last February in praise of my Daughter-in-Law, and I still shall. To this day it remains my most read piece, either a tribute to my writing or unlikelihood of  such high praise from a Mother-in-Law. I will never know which. Continue reading

Advance Directives

 

I wanted very much to title this blog, Serendipity, but somehow that seemed to be too frivolous a word, for such a serious topic. I try to stay away from politics, social security and all the really big important issues. This is not because I don’t have any strong opinions on these matters but more because, I feel other bloggers are far more knowledgable than I, and far better writers. And of course the overwhelming personality deficient of wanting to be liked by everyone on the planet, an impossible task, one that I am actually dealing with at my ripe old age. A bit late, but as I have mentioned before on the off-chance I live as long as almost all of my genetic relatives, I’ll have another twenty or so years left and that is what prompted me to try to change some of my old habits.Mom

Let’s get back to serendipity or fate or destiny what ever you choose to call it. I am a very slow learner, perhaps even a tad stubborn. So when Lucy, my wonderful WordPress coach strongly suggested that I begin reading other blogs in this category, I kinda blew it off. Yesterday I finally got my younger son to help me with this site, after twenty minutes of my questions and looking at all my “issues”, he asked “have you looked a at the ten or twelve most popular blogs in this category?”. Continue reading

Leaving My Comfort Zone

 

About six years ago, as I was leaving my house, at the same time as my very, very attractive neighbor, who I had only spoken with in passing, was also leaving her house with her gorgeous dog. This dog Lavender, is even prettier than her Mommy if that is possible.

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Because my neighbor was so attractive, I screwed up all my courage and dredged up the nerve to ask her what she did for a living. Why, you would ask, did that take courage? It appeared to me that very good-looking men, and okay some women too, were going in and out of her house at all hours of the day and night, hopefully you can see why I was afraid to ask. She laughed and explained that she was an actress and a drama coach, thus explaining all those great looking visitors! Continue reading

Does Christmas Set Us Up For Disappointment

 

Another holiday has passed, and I realize yet again of how difficult Christmas is, because of our high expectations, built-in from childhood. As I was speaking to my brother on Christmas Day, he verbalized what I have thought for years, his words, “Christmas will never be what it was in 1955″!

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Henry Winkler on Staying Relevant Over 60

I have written many blogs referring to my favorite blog, Time Goes By, by Ronni Bennett. She is a marvelous writer and although we are probably roughly the same age, I want to be her when I grow up. She never married and had a great career in New York City, the life I always dream of at those moments when my entire family is driving me crazy. making me regret marrying (twice) and ever having children! The grass is always greener! Continue reading

Properly or Improperly……….In Love

For every day of my life, beginning as a seventeen year old falling in love for the first time, I have been in love. The first object of my affection, a college student home for Christmas vacation. Continue reading

Honeysuckle and Fireflies

 

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As my husband and I were walking home from dinner, he asked if I smelled the honeysuckle? I said no and going through my mind was “can honeysuckle bloom in late September, even if it is still 100 degrees here in Los Angeles”, but I stopped myself from suggesting he was wrong. Making a mental note to Google “Honeysuckle” later, I waited to see what he would say next. Shocker, my very unsentimental husband started to reminisce about Honeysuckle and fireflies, in the summers of his youth. For anyone else this is nothing unusual but my for my husband, who never talks about his childhood, for me to get any information about his past, I’ve had to water board him. Continue reading

New Year……..Better Me

 

Rosh HasanahI have tried for the last ten days to write a blog about Rosh Hashanah, the holiday that celebrates the beginning of the Jewish New Year. This would be 5773, and what can make for a better blog than a new year. It is similar to a conventional new year in that it forces people to look at what they’ve accomplished in the past year and to look at the year ahead. It differs, however, in that it is our belief that these are the ten days when names are entered in the book of life for the coming year, a ten-day period that ends with Yom Kippur, the Day of Atonement. Hopefully on that day we fast and having atoned, go forward with a clean slate. Continue reading

Two Planes………New Image

 

Cal FlagCalifornia had a thrilling day yesterday. Amid all the politics and the financial woes of this once Golden State, the Space Shuttle Endeavour came home. Born here twenty odd years ago, in a once flourishing Rockwell International aerospace factory in Palmdale, she will make her permanent home in the California Science Center in Los Angeles, having come full circle. Continue reading