I really wanted to come back with a big splash, but writing about my year in exile, still cuts a little too close to the bone. So, instead I’ll tackle a problem that many of you may share, what to do with your Facebook Friends Page after they die.
It seems so cold to delete them as though they never existed. Many older people may have a page that no one in their family knew about, or family members may just completely forget to delete the page. I am sure this problem is not addressed in KUBLER-ROSS five stages of grief.
The first brush I had with this problem was last Fall when a friend of mine passed and no one in his family was familiar with Facebook. Not wanting to bring up such a trivial matter at the time I simply deleted him from my Friends and pretty much forgot about it, except for the guilt pangs from just hitting the delete button and making a person disappear.
Now it has happened again, this time a friend and former neighbor has passed away. In this case my friend had some young, Facebook savvy friends and they used the site to break the sad news to all of her friends and of course to post the obituary and details of the services.
Yet again I face the dilemma, Do I just wait for someone to remove the page or do I once again simply “unfriend” my friend. Will this action once more make me feel like an assassin. No where in the Facebook Manual for Seniors do they deal with this situation. Perhaps, I should private message Marc Zuckerberg to see if he had anticipated this predicament. I think not, since this was initially a college based site and Mark could not have imagined his college networking empire being co-opted by a bunch of baby boomers reconnecting with high school friends they’d not seen in years.
But, alas that is what Facebook has become, pictures of cats, grandchildren and people in shorts on cruise ships. With this new demographic, has come the inevitable demise of Facebook users and that is how I began this post. My question to all of you is how should I, and by extension all of you handle this predicament, as I am sure it will continue to challenge us in the future.