Or not! With the announcement this week of the break up of the long, 39 year marriage of Captain and Tennille, it brings up a little discussed topic. What can cause a long marriage to break up just when you need your spouse the most.
I subscribe to the old joke, “I married for better or worse, but not for lunch”. I have no idea why they may be breaking up, some of the articles refer to health care and health insurance reasons. Evidently, if one partner is very ill it is best to split the assets, to avoid wiping out all of your joint assets. That is a question for my accountant.
I, however can think of a good many other plausible reasons. One being I have heard everything you have to say and if we are never apart for a minute, nothing new is going to materialize. One of the things I like least about our golden years is this constant togetherness.
I guess I would now advise young people to be very sure before they marry that they actually like each other. Have things in common besides the children. It is the small things that become the stumbling blocks in the end.
Do you the same movies and television shows? Is one of you an extrovert and the other an introvert? How about entertaining, does one of you love company and the other finds people in the house a problem?
I know these seem like small annoyances, but they mount up after time. Some people don’t notice these things until after the kids leave. But others (me,me,me) didn’t really notice when we each had places to go and people to see.
It is also becoming clear why my parents had separate bedrooms. In their case it was my mother who was a poor sleeper, and she did not want to keep my father up. In my case it is the way around, which is why I started this blog @ 5:30am. Someone, I am not saying who, makes just enough noise to get me up and then goes back to sleep, leaving me to entertain myself until I get sleepy again.
I hope Daryl and Toni, have darn good reason for the split, but I have a feeling they have just spent one minute too many keeping IT TOGETHER.