As I focus on starting a new project, an offshoot of this blog, I’m aware how important it is to gather all of your resources in any quest to change your life. Writing is a solitary activity, and I am the most social of all animals, a social butterfly or a magpie. A pack animal, a wolf perhaps, or something that travels in a herd, maybe a goat. With every keystroke I am cringing with these visuals, so you get the point, let’s move on.
My new project involves getting back into motivational speaking or facilitating meetings, but instead of focusing on weight management, my focus now falls on keeping baby boomers completely engaged with life. As I may have written before, I began to notice my life shrinking, fewer real engaging activities, more make work kinds of things. The lunches with friends, that planned around my work, now became the highlight of my day, I could devote hours to almost nothing, and when I began to plan my day around The View and The Talk, I knew I was in trouble.
That was when I began this blog, but I find writing a little isolating, so now I am about to launch, a series of motivational meetings, with the hope of turning them into a full-fledged business. Imagine, if I could make money, spend a great deal of my time around large numbers of people and be away from home one weekend a month, all under the umbrella of talking. Heaven!!
As I looked through my notebook of ideas this morning I found a thought expressed in two different places. What if we considered our life, a movie? Are you the star of your own movie/life or just a supporting player? How would your life be different, if you interchanged those two roles? In many cases I believe women, especially those over 60, are conditioned by society to only have a supporting role in their own life. Ever the helpful wife or supportive mother, never really being the star of our own movie. Can we just change the script and finally put ourselves first, not so easy.
Let’s see where we could go with this. Is your life a comedy, drama or a tragedy? Perhaps like mine the new genre applies, a dramedy. I have always known that my sense of humor has kept me alive, I don’t know how anyone gets through life if not laughing at all the curve balls we get pitched. Back to our plot, if you are not the star in your own film, you’ll never get that role. So fire the director and take over the reins! Do you need to raise more money for your production, think outside the box.
Remember when you picked out the wallpaper for your kitchen back in ’79, you now qualify as an art director. You balance your checkbook? Production accountant! All those carpools you drove to little league, a location coördinator! See we are getting the hang of it.
Now on to hair and makeup, if you have not changed your hairstyle in 35 years, that will be your first stop. The trick with makeup, as you get older less is more. I who thought I’d never leave the house without eyeliner discovered, don’t need it, and whoever invented tinted moisturizer, deserves a nobel prize.
On to wardrobe, I have always believed when you dress for the part you will feel more effective and be more successful at whatever you are pursuing. You don’t take a walk in a dress and heels, so don’t go everywhere else in a track suit. Know what you look and feel good in and stick with the style you are most comfortable with. And while we are on the topic, here is a piece of fashion advice from my mother. If you wore it the first time it was in style you are too old to wear it when it comes back, as I remember she was talking about hot pants.
This is all amusing, but the truth is sometimes we must leave our comfort zone to grow, code word for change, and change we must or live out the rest of our life bored or isolated or both. As I have written before, no one knows how long they will live but if you are in your sixties and enjoy good health, you could live another twenty-five years.
The star or an extra the choice is ours!